Post Show Depression -How do you cope?

[Ava]

I saw Marty perform in Jacksonville, Fl and got to talk to and hug him afterward - what a rush. I get the same feeling every time I watch his videos or hear his voice. But after the concert I felt so sad and down for days. I could not even stay for the INXS part because I was in Marty withdrawl. Now, after I watch or listen to Marty, I feel a bit of that depression again. It's like missing someone you care about. I have never had a rockstar crush before so I don't know if this is "normal". Do others get this and what does it mean to you? Thanks, Joely

[mchell]

I felt that way too. For me I think it's that I was looking forward to seeing him so much that it was fun and exciting to think about. Now that it's in the past I think will I ever get to see him again. Will he come to town here again.

[Ava]

At least you can be glad that you were smart enough to have your camera. I did not take mine because I did not think they were allowed and so I did not get a picture of me with Marty. However, if I had gotten one, it might be too sad to look at it!

[Cindy]

awwww guys! Cheer up. That is why you come over here. To look at pretty pictures and share the love.

So enjoy the ride....

[radioclash]

Seriously if anyone has the cure, let me know! I'm feeling it even more so today - because it is exactly one month since I saw them in concert.

[pines]

Can you imagine how it is for us who have no chance (yet!) of seeing them in person? On second thought... it really could be worse once you DO get to see them live! Oh dear...

Amy's right... we live through this board... and enjoying it... it's all we have!!!

Can never thank you enough Amy and Cindy

[henry]

I was so emotional after I saw the LHs I cried for a week. Every evening when I went to school I had to pass the venue and the sadness would hit all over again. I knew it was stupid, but it was an emotion. Ride it out, cry it out and share the love on the site. (I think it also doesn't help that we know we're not going to get to see them again in the near future.)

Yup pines - can't thank them enough!!!!

[Ava]

Wow, I never know about this post show depression phenom before but now I know it personally. Since I never got into a band this much before, I was not prepared for this. Have any of you felt this way about other stars, or has Marty cast a spell on us all?? Perhaps it was the intensity of seeing him every week all summer. But he is also something special. I drove around today with the latest CD blaring. That is a dangerous thing to do, because my head is in the clouds. But thanks for the replys, I got tears in my eyes reading them. I hope Marty is OK with being adored by strangers.

[pines]

Well joely... for me it's just Marty who've ever had me this crazy. Got my CD playing over and over too, while at work... while driving... I visit this website and some others too often in a day just to catch up. Geez, there you go... another nuthead

[henry]

Not a nuthead. . .just suffering from PMS. (Post Marty Syndrome)

[mchell]

It was so weird. I was sitting and watching what I could of them signing autographs after the concert. Lots of people to try to look through. Right after I went through the line I felt happy and then sad. When they left then I really felt sad. I have never had that before. This was a new phenomenon for me. Very odd I mean I'm a grown woman what the hell...lol.

[nyener]

I,ve been to 2 concerts both times NO MEET & GREET!!! Talk about sad, I was like WHAT THE HELL, I don't get to meet them again. So just be thankful if you did get to meet them or him.
They need a Chicago show fast!

[Vicki]

I guess for me it is diffrent. I got such a high after my experience and I am still riding it. I think I may get depressed over it but I have this site to go to during my (what I like to call) Marty Meltdown Moments or MMM. That really helps me. Watching the RS vids and the VH1 vids really makes me happy. I am just thankfull for my time. And thankfull to know that there are others out here like me.
Thanks RC for reminding me that it was a month ago today. Today is my B-day so I have had other things to keep me occupied!

Now I will say this, in '04 I saw at the beginning of his Musicology tour and I was good! But then when he added more dates and was coming back to the area I got depressed because hubby did not want to go again. He just does not get my obsessions. I have been a Prince fan as long as I can remember. Hubby eventually gave in cause he did not want to see me moping around anymore. I imagine that I would be the same way if I thought that LH were nearby and I could not go.

Anyway Joley, you will get through it and I know that you will have another oppritunity to see them and meet them again. And if you do, TAKE YOUR CAMERA! I took 3 and had one confiscated (luckily I got it back though)

[pines]

thanks Henry, that cracked me up! PMS... (shakes head)... now I could tell that to my husband and he won't have a clue I have another guy in my mind! lol

[Ava]

henry said:

Not a nuthead. . .just suffering from PMS. (Post Marty Syndrome)

Oh, that is terrific. This form of PMS makes the other kind seem like child's play!

[Ava]

vicki said:

I guess for me it is diffrent. I got such a high after my experience and I am still riding it. I think I may get depressed over it but I have this site to go to during my (what I like to call) Marty Meltdown Moments or MMM. That really helps me. Watching the RS vids and the VH1 vids really makes me happy. I am just thankfull for my time. And thankfull to know that there are others out here like me.
Thanks RC for reminding me that it was a month ago today. Today is my B-day so I have had other things to keep me occupied!

Now I will say this, in '04 I saw at the beginning of his Musicology tour and I was good! But then when he added more dates and was coming back to the area I got depressed because hubby did not want to go again. He just does not get my obsessions. I have been a Prince fan as long as I can remember. Hubby eventually gave in cause he did not want to see me moping around anymore. I imagine that I would be the same way if I thought that LH were nearby and I could not go.

Anyway Joley, you will get through it and I know that you will have another oppritunity to see them and meet them again. And if you do, TAKE YOUR CAMERA! I took 3 and had one confiscated (luckily I got it back though)

It's good to know that there is the possibility of riding the high for a good while. I am sure I will see them again in this life. But it will probably not be as intimate of a setting as Jacksonville. I hope for their sake that I can never get as much time with them as I did at that show. But, the thing about this adoration is that it is so totally different from a crush on a person in "real life". I mean, there is no chance of ever really satisfying the attraction and so we can't have Marty like we could another man. But, we also get so much more of Marty that we could most men. I mean, we can look at him and listen to him and hear his deep emotions through music. And I guess the good part is that we can't hook up and then ever fall out of love. It is an unrequited love that can last forever.

[shuckra]

Ive had this post-event depression, and it comes from feeling that my "real" life is not as good or exciting or creative as the performers "real" life, and it is a crash to come down off the high and back to painting houses. My thing has been not so much to be WITH Marty but to BE Marty - to be able to use that creative force and truly communicate with people who get it is SO appealing- but envy is not a thing to hang on to for very long, you know...so I learned what I needed to learn and let go of that envy and I found that I have not experienced the "depression".
What I did find is the energy that I felt from the Rockstar shows, the LH cds, the LH concerts, the message boards, the meet and greets, etc. took over and has influenced every other part of my life in a positive way.

How can it not? Aren't we obligated to share our creativity with each other, whether it is through art or music or our relationships with ourselves and others, aren't we obligated to create beautiful lives to live, lives that make use of our bodies and our minds to make this amazing playground a cool place for our souls to spend time in?

So for me it has been about perspective - yeah I paint houses for a living instead of being a rockstar - but that job gives me the freedom to drive across the country with my friend on a whim to have an amazing Lovehammers weekend in Chicago - something I am proud to have on my list of cool things from my life.

So I guess that the thing about the depression is that it gives us an opportunity to look at our own lives and see what changes would make our day to day moments the most important ones, cuz the moments are all there is dudes...

Does this make any sense, cuz like I said in another post, I tend to get loopy and philosophical when it gets late, and it is way past my bedtime

[CaseysAngel]

I can truly, truly sympathize. I got to meet Marty and all the guys, talk to them for a pretty good while, lots of hugs and kisses....it was the best time I've had in many years. After the concert I mooned around like a 13 year old in love and actually lost 5 pounds! Marty is the sweetest guy, when he's written me he's so complimentary, and the other boys are precious. At one psychotic moment I even considered leaving and following them on the rest of their tour!
But I have some great pics, e-mails, and best of all I got to know them a little and have my greatest memories ever!

~o~ Angel ~o~

[wendyc122]

shuckra said:

Ive had this post-event depression, and it comes from feeling that my "real" life is not as good or exciting or creative as the performers "real" life, and it is a crash to come down off the high and back to painting houses. My thing has been not so much to be WITH Marty but to BE Marty - to be able to use that creative force and truly communicate with people who get it is SO appealing- but envy is not a thing to hang on to for very long, you know...so I learned what I needed to learn and let go of that envy and I found that I have not experienced the "depression".
What I did find is the energy that I felt from the Rockstar shows, the LH cds, the LH concerts, the message boards, the meet and greets, etc. took over and has influenced every other part of my life in a positive way.

How can it not? Aren't we obligated to share our creativity with each other, whether it is through art or music or our relationships with ourselves and others, aren't we obligated to create beautiful lives to live, lives that make use of our bodies and our minds to make this amazing playground a cool place for our souls to spend time in?

So for me it has been about perspective - yeah I paint houses for a living instead of being a rockstar - but that job gives me the freedom to drive across the country with my friend on a whim to have an amazing Lovehammers weekend in Chicago - something I am proud to have on my list of cool things from my life.

So I guess that the thing about the depression is that it gives us an opportunity to look at our own lives and see what changes would make our day to day moments the most important ones, cuz the moments are all there is dudes...

Does this make any sense, cuz like I said in another post, I tend to get loopy and philosophical when it gets late, and it is way past my bedtime

Yes, it makes total sense. Your thoughts are beautiful, sensitive, and well said.

Now ... if we are all feeling this way, can you imagine what a crash Marty must be experiencing right now?

[4reeds]

My name is 4reeds and I suffer from Post Marty Depression...

Maybe we need to start a support group for this. ;D

Seriously though, I am a happily married wife and mom and I am totally obsessed with Marty and Lovehammers.

After I saw them twice in January, I thought I'd never get over the let down after it was over. Luckily I got the chance of a lifetime to see them in Vegas this month and after only 2 weeks I am feeling 'blue' again.

I know we'll see them again, but until then I just keep blasting the music in my van, watching any video I can get my hands on and chatting on the board with my fellow fanatics.

I keeps me going.