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Post by Stiletto on Jul 18, 2006 23:41:53 GMT -5
A co-worker of mine just lost his 17 year old son Josh to an Asthma attack.............
Brutal, brutal, brutal,............I've known him for a few years now and the last time we spoke he was going on about how he was so proud of his son............
You see..........his son Josh was a musician (singer/songwriter/guitarist) and he and his band were discovered on the net of all things by an agent in Vancouver who handles some big names.
They were recording their first CD and he had come home for a few days to be with his family and friends.............
I was in such shock when I heard the news at work the other day...............I haven't been able to talk to his dad yet..........
A truly sad thing.
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Post by Treed on Jul 19, 2006 0:17:17 GMT -5
A co-worker of mine just lost his 17 year old son Josh to an Asthma attack............. Brutal, brutal, brutal,............I've known him for a few years now and the last time we spoke he was going on about how he was so proud of his son............ You see..........his son Josh was a musician (singer/songwriter/guitarist) and he and his band were discovered on the net of all things by an agent in Vancouver who handles some big names. They were recording their first CD and he had come home for a few days to be with his family and friends............. I was in such shock when I heard the news at work the other day...............I haven't been able to talk to his dad yet.......... A truly sad thing. Stil - this is absolutely heartbreaking... It's gut wrenching to have this happen to anyone - let alone someone you are close to, and especially a child. The words will come, just be there for him - he knows. Our thoughts are there with you and his family. We're here for you. |
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Post by Cindy on Jul 19, 2006 0:17:56 GMT -5
This is a tragedy Stiletto. We will keep this family in our thoughts. It is especially tragic to have someone struck down so young and who seemed to be really going some where. Very sorry to hear about this. My symphathy for his family and friends.
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Post by Stiletto on Jul 19, 2006 0:25:19 GMT -5
I keep going over in my head what I need to say to him............knowing anything I say just won't be enough...........
Difficult................then you start looking at your own family wondering how you'd cope with the same thing...........striving for empathy...........
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Post by FlyIntoOblivion on Jul 19, 2006 0:29:06 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for you and the boy's family! To be so young...that's just heartbreaking.
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Post by jodieca on Jul 19, 2006 1:49:28 GMT -5
Stil I am sooo sorry to hear this, absolutely heartbreaking. I have had the unfortunate experience of losing many many friends far to young, with so much ahead of them in their lives. I know that even if you can't find the words, just a hug & a knowing look, your friends will know you care & that you are there for them. Sometimes you just don't even need words. Whatever you do say, your heart will lead you in the right direction.
My deepest condolences to you & your co-worker & his family.
xo
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Post by chanvre on Jul 19, 2006 1:54:39 GMT -5
Oh, Stil. Reading that made me feel sick. Imagine his family...
I lost of lot of my friends when we were teenagers, and you just never know the right thing to say or do. Jodie gave some sound advice, though.
Take care. We're thinking of you, and of his family.
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Post by cjspas on Jul 19, 2006 3:33:28 GMT -5
Stil-
I'm so sorry. There are never the "right words" when something like this happens. How can you come up with the "right words" for something that feels so wrong? Parents shouldn't bury their children--it feels wrong. I've had my share of unfortunate early deaths in my family and Jodie is right -- just letting your friends know you care and want to be there for them is the most important thing.
His family and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.
Personally a poignant reminder to live each day well and not take those we love for granted.
CJ
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Post by klly on Jul 19, 2006 7:02:48 GMT -5
There is no greater loss than the loss of a child. As CJ said, no parent should bury a child. Ever. My thoughts and prayers are with your friend's family, Stilletto.
I am so sorry.
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Post by chitowngirl on Jul 19, 2006 7:13:17 GMT -5
What awful news, Stil. I am so sorry. Don't worry about finding the right words to comfort your friend, knowing that you are there for him will help more than you know. Such a tragedy......
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Post by henry on Jul 19, 2006 8:00:23 GMT -5
I keep going over in my head what I need to say to him............knowing anything I say just won't be enough........... Difficult................then you start looking at your own family wondering how you'd cope with the same thing...........striving for empathy........... I am so sorry for you and your friend's family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. You already know that there is absolutely nothing you can say that will be enough or "just right" - how could it be? When you do call him, he may find comfort in just knowing you're thinking of him, are there for him and feel such compassion for him and his family's loss. This is so sad. I am very sorry for you all. |
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Post by greeneyes on Jul 19, 2006 8:10:50 GMT -5
All of your friends here have given you great advice and we'll all be thinking of the family... hoping they can find the strength to go on. It's heartbreaking.
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Post by rockfan on Jul 19, 2006 8:50:24 GMT -5
So sorry to hear about your co-worker's son. That is so heart-wrenching. We will be keeping you and your friends family in our thoughts and prayers.
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Post by needy on Jul 19, 2006 8:55:36 GMT -5
Oh Stil. I can't possibly imagine what your co-worker and his family is going through. Such a young promising life so sudden and with something so common as asthma. How very scary. I've had situations where I needed the right words and just couldn't come up with them. So just be honest. In the past I have said to people "I wish I could tell you the right words to ease your pain but I just can't find them". Then the conversations from there always flowed. People is early grief usually feel they need to speak 'cause they themselves are trying to wrap their own heads around what has happened. Don't wait until you find the right words, he just might really need your ears instead. I have also been through grief myself so I know that early on you need to talk to others.
I will pray for the young man's family and for the people around them so they can help them through this.
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Post by ndavis021410 on Jul 19, 2006 9:27:07 GMT -5
Oh Stil, I'm so sorry to hear about this tragic death, just horrible. I agree with everyone here, just being there for your friend may be enough, that is very important to show your support and love. Will keep you and your friends family in my prayers and thoughts, for comfort and peace during this tragic horrible time. Later hun....Nancy  |
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Post by dreaming1 on Jul 19, 2006 9:59:25 GMT -5
Stil,
I agree with those that say do not worry about what to say, just be there for the family. It is important to let them know you are there. I lost my younger brother less than 2 years ago. Trust me.....words are not judged right now, just knowing that there are those near you to support you in any way is wonderful. Most likely the first few weeks they might seem shocked or 'going through the motions'. It may hit them harder a few weeks down the road when all that support starts to fade. Keep checking up on them weeks/months from now. Our prayers are with the family.
Laurie
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Post by oceancat46 on Jul 19, 2006 12:14:08 GMT -5
Stil,
That is so terribly sad - everyone has given great advice and I know you will do what feels right in your heart. I'll be praying for your friend's family and for you. Take care,
CJ
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Post by Stiletto on Jul 19, 2006 17:08:20 GMT -5
Thx.....everyone.........what a great bunch you gals are..........I feel better now..........
Looking forward to seeing him actually.......hopefully soon.........he and his family are in retreat right now so all his coworkers and friends are going to let them mourn for a few days before they are wrenched back to work and everyday life......
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Post by keysunset on Jul 22, 2006 16:50:28 GMT -5
Add my prayers to all those already offered.
I've not had to deal with the death of a child. But I have been helped through dealing with a death last fall and another this spring through the love and support of family and friends.
One kept telling me to "Hold On" - and I did play that song over and over and over.
Another told me:
"Stay strong. Take comfort in your tears, and appreciate them. After all, they are sprung from the love for those you have lost. And that's pretty cool."
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Post by Stiletto on Jul 22, 2006 22:24:34 GMT -5
I also lost two very good friends and coworkers this past year..........one to cancer and the other to heart failure........ Both in their 30's.............very upsetting................ I did speak with my friend last week........and yeah......it was awkward.........but I just listened to him.......I think that's the best I could do.........nothing I said would change what happened...........he seemed to be dealing with it as best he could.......... Thanks for the sympathy for him and the words of advice to me everyone............  |
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