Marty at Farley Flood Fest

[erin]

I hope that Marty gets this message-Just to make this right, you are thinking of the right group of girls, but the wrong sister at the Flood Fest. The sister that wrote the post was the one that asked if you remember taking the picture and asked if you would be joining the Lovehammers for more concerts when she saw you backstage.
I was the one that asked you to sign my shirt and I waited until there was a break with the children. I thanked you for it and then my sister and I walked away.
In talking with my sister, she did not want to piss you off, she just thought that at other concerts of yours, it seemed like you enjoyed talking more to the adults, but again, at most concerts there are not as many kids as there were in Farley.
So, I just wanted to say, that you put on an extraordinary show that night! Hopefully my sister and I will be welcomed back at another one of your concerts!

[jillywilly65]

I hope so too Erin

[blueeyz]

Me too, Erin. It's great that you popped in and shared your perspective. It's also great that you mentioned how you waited until there was a break with the children. How sad that the bigger folks were pushing them aside! Despite that, I hope all the kids enjoyed the show.

[foodsteach]

Usually, I am not one to post, but I am an avid reader of this site. I was one of the people that drove from Chicago and spent time reconnecting with Marty that day. Although we thoroughly enjoyed our time together he was expressing how exicted he was to get on stage every night and perform with L.A. Guns. I hope that this post from Marty hits home with those of you that questioned Marty's appreciation of his fans. Next time maybe you should stop and consider your post because once on the board it is there for all to see and will remain there long after your bad mood has passed. If you want to say something negative about the show as a whole that is your porogative, but to attack Marty personally is uncalled for. We, as his fans and supporters, should be grateful he gives as much of himself as he does. This is a rarity among performers. Posts like this are what causes people to shut others out so please be mindful when posting. He has a huge heart and I would hate to see him no longer interact with his fans after the shows. I understand everyone is entitled to "humanness" but please be mindful when posting to a public forum.

[bostongirl]

Well said foodsteach. I for one am thrilled that Marty came here to set the record straight. And let us all remember the next time we are at a show and think one thing is happening, that perhaps we do not have all the facts.

foodsteach - also happy to hear that you got a chance to reconnect with Marty. I travel quite a bit and know how much it means to feel a bit of home while on the road.

[BBE]

Foodsteach--I agree with what you wrote. I sure hope that Marty doesn't let the occasional complainer put him off of connecting with all his fans who DO appreciate all he gives and who do understand how rare that is. He is really a special soul, and he deserves to be given respect, or at the very least, just plain basic human courtesy.

I'm glad to see him speaking up for himself these days when he feels he's being treated unfairly or abused. He has put up with an awful lot lately, and he's right--it ISN'T fair.

That's great that you got to drive out to spend some time with Marty and helped recharge his batteries. I have always been impressed with how solid and supportive his friends and family have always been. You all give him wings to fly, and he is flying to reach his dreams because of your support!


Count me as one fan who "gets it", and always appreciates all he gives.

[Sharon (sdbrins)]

Jul 31, 2008 15:37:14 GMT -5 foodsteach said:

..... We, as his fans and supporters, should be grateful he gives as much of himself as he does. This is a rarity among performers..... He has a huge heart.....

arat I appreciate you posting that you may have over reacted to the moment and that you do support Marty.

Thanks Marty for so many more details about the evening. Inteacting with the kids must have been really fun!

Thank you Erin for letting us know how much you enjoyed the show.

And foodsteach, thank you for posting, you should do so more often.

I would just like to add, personally, I am not only grateful, I am amazed by the person he is!

[blueeyz]

I get what you’re saying, foodsteach. Something to consider though, is that this site is OVERFLOWING with glowing reviews of Marty’s performances and interaction with the fans. The positive posts clearly outnumber the negative ones! It seems unlikely that ONE person’s blunt and negative post is going to shut out Marty and some of the fans. And even that ONE person had a lot of positive things to say after the negative stuff.

My opinion is this: if you have a great experience at a show, you should feel free to share it. If you don’t have a great experience at a show, you should feel free to share it too. Only revealing the sunny side creates an illusion. I’m not saying that there’s a right or wrong in this particular situation, I would just hate for people who don’t have amazing reviews to give to feel isolated. But I do understand the benefit of tact….it can make all the difference.

-Blue

[jillywilly65]

Oh goody here we go with another fight!
It may not meant to be coming across this way but this isn't a scenario where any of us should feel the need to "defend" Marty and feel like he can't fend for himself. He isn't a fragile little boy. He is a MAN. Arat and Erin more than made up in an apology and they had their reasons for feeling a little wierd. Who cares??!!
They are sorry!! I wish whoever the devisive person was that sent him the link to her frustration ,ALSO would have sent her
Apology where she said SORRY!!!!
This kind of stuff makes the fun of coming here slip away for me
and I have been coming here for 2 yrs. It's just not that big
a deal.
I hope Cindy and Amy close this thread cuz it's getting personal now and that is so way not cool!!

[kes]

I agree with you Jilly 100%, this is crazy I personally dont enjoy the boards anymore because of drama like this, what happened to the fun and the friendships that was here a year ago?? I feel like its all slipped away.

[arat]

I feel really bad after reading Marty's e-mail. I did see him talking to kids and I did not interrupt. I think it is great Marty talked to all the kids that were there. My message should have only reflected my feelings. I did not expect Marty to remember me, I just felt like when I said we have been to a lot of your concerts, watched you on Rockstar and then traveled there to see you, he might have said thanks for being great fans, or thanks for your support. But none the less he is one of the few musicians who does take the time to meet the fans. Again, I am soooo sorry for being so negative and Marty if you read this I did not mean to hurt you, I really am a fan. I think I just had a bitchy moment. Hope this can all end well now.

[gymjam75]

Arat,
From posts, I think people have forgiven you. I think what foodsteach was saying was we need to be more aware of things we post because things can easy be taking the wrong way. I am sure Marty will not hold it against you. Keep you chin up and let's all move on!

[IWOmusic]

Honestly just the thought that somebody is sending him links like that is ridiculous. The tour itself is so demanding, I would probably go back to hotel and sleep, yet he finds time for us.
He had to learn new songs on the fly and the constant traveling is just tiresome. Why add to it and bring his attention to a comment like this?
I am not saying that post was a great thing to do, but Marty needs time to relax and focus what's ahead of him... and not be bothered constantly with people sending him "links"to stir-the-pot.
I hope he won't take a break on the whole meet and greet thing now.

[palari]

I guess its all about expectations and perspective.

It is hard sometimes to keep your wits about you, especially around our Marty. He is all magnetism and magic. It is easy to understand why people are so attracted to his energy and want to be a part of it. And he does make himself so available that I am sure all of us have crossed the line somewhere, somehow...forgotten where the boundaries are.

So lets all take a moment to reflect a little, appreciate the time and energy we are given and tuck this little treasure away for the next time we are faced with an opportunity to say hey and thanks to our rockstar.

Expectations and perspective...lets keep it real.

[lhfan4life]

Jul 31, 2008 17:56:32 GMT -5 @jillywilly65 said:

Oh goody here we go with another fight! [img src="martycasey.org/emoticons/noway.gif"]

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I hope Cindy and Amy close this thread cuz it's getting personal now and that is so way not cool!![/quote]


I agree 100%. We don't need to create any more drama, i think these boards have had enough of that to last a long time......

[redjasper]

Hmmmmm... I've read all of the posts and I'm in a passive state about it. My little thought is that the volatility of life is what keeps us pulsing and feeling things. Expecting, giving, taking, choosing, wanting... we're all on one end or the other of that at each moment in our day. No one is to blame and no one is immune. Feelings are often raw experiences and life is better when we know how we feel, express it, and then respect what we hear from the other side. Does this make any sense?? It does to me in some weird way. Marty is a catalyst for these pulsing and feeling things. I use zany humour here to feel things - some might find it out of line - I hope not, but I wouldn't mind if someone told me they weren't enthralled. One thing I always feel on this site is a level of respect among those who support Marty - which is why we're here. The exchange in this thread is evidence of that respect. I love everybody who feels the stuff of life.

Okay - meandering over now. G'night...

[desinsantarosaca]

To Marty,

I hope you know that one of the MANY reasons you have so many fans is the fact that you ARE so gracious. Another reason is that we see and feel how you DO put every ounce of yourself into your performances and are willing to include us fans both on AND off stage. There are other artists out there that I think are great of course, but I don't follow them as a fan if there things about their public persona that are not cool. I guess I should be able to separate talent from integrity, but I can't.

With all the back to back shows you are doing right now, I especially can't believe how you have the time and energy to hang out after a show at all!

[henry]

hmmmm wonder who thought it was so important to send Marty this post. Hope they thought it was also important to send the posts onto him that say how wonderful he is, etc. Unless someone was trying to get his goat and piss him off.

I'm glad he posted and explained what was going on. Anyone who has tried to get close to MC and his energy knows it can be a madhouse with the fans. Sounds like a couple of misunderstandings - too bad it had to be brought up to him. We should all be allowed to express our happiness or our not so happiness about things around here without the threat of being brought out on the carpet.

[jupiterjane]

Did anyone get pics from this show? I'm missing any pics from this show in the scrapbook for Marty.