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Post by BBE on Jun 10, 2009 17:30:02 GMT -5
Nancy, thanks for sharing your story. My friend Lynn's mom died Monday morning. I've not had an opportunity to talk to her yet ... trying to give the family some space right now. The memorial service isn't until June 20. So some hard days coming up for them. And then the "year of firsts". Star - praying for you and your family too, darlin'. Lots of love being sent your way. Key, you're welcome. I hope it was of some help. Please pass along my sympathies to her family. Even when you know the end is coming for your loved one, that doesn't make it any easier to say goodbye. |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 10, 2009 20:55:59 GMT -5
Thank you everyone. My Mom and I just went to the store. My Dad is still way out of it and is on a morphine drip in a lot of pain. She decided to let him rest tonight, and then to come back in the early morning.
The doctor is a really well known cancer specialist in his field. And he says that we all have to just take it step by step. Apparently my Father's stomach had grown back to normal when the went in. There was a lot of scar tissue going in that the doctor had to remove. The cancer cells were in the spot where the last ones were removed from.
From what was told to my Mom, my Dad just has a very aggressive form of cancer. It can spread to other organs and do whatever it pretty much wants to do at a fast rate when it wants to. Removing the section that has the cells, leaving him less than the first time will be alright for now. They will just have to check on him more often, and we just have to be aware that it could come back.
This doctor was the original specialist that found it early the first time. So, we know that he is not taking anything lightly. The fact that it came back was just one of those things... this time we can just pray that they have done enough to remove all the cells from his body. Then trust that the chemo pills that they want to give him will do the rest.
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 10, 2009 21:00:25 GMT -5
Steph, I've been saying some prayers for your dad. I'm glad to hear he came through the surgery OK. I hope the doctors will come up with a good treatment plan so that it doesn't come back again. This has got to be a very long and tiring day for all of you. Many hugs and good thoughts to you and your family. [img src=" ![]() martycasey.org/emoticons/hugs.gif"] [/IMG] [/quote] Thank you Nancy. My Mom is really drained and that is easy to understand. My brother and I are frustrated more than anything. It's difficult to know that you can't do anything to make a problem go away... sitting back and waiting just is hard to do when everything inside you wants to fight for the safety of your love one. Cancer just sucks a**!!!  |
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Post by keysunset on Jun 10, 2009 21:19:15 GMT -5
star - keeping you and your family in prayers. I wish I could give you a real hug, but this will have to do  Keep us posted and try to take care of yourself as well in all this.  |
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Post by jillywilly65 on Jun 10, 2009 22:37:15 GMT -5
Steph thanks for keeping us posted on your Dad. I have been thinking of him all day off and on and praying for Divine intervention for the hands of the Dr's, as well as wisdom on how to treat him. I hope he feels better from the srugery real soon, that's hard on a body to go thru all that, the poor guy. Also remembering your Mom and the rest of you in my prayers as well.
((love and Hugs))
J~
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 11, 2009 1:47:59 GMT -5
Thank you both... {{{Hugs}}} My Mom called to check on my Dad for the evening. He is awake on and off. Still in a lot of pain, but if memory serves me right they should try to make him walk tomorrow. Last time they told us that he needed to be on his feet to drain the fluids that could build in his chest from laying down. That could led to other complications... so he will have to get up no matter the pain  Right now the morphine drip is his friend. Day by day... well it's late here in So Cal, so it is time for me to call it a night. I was just online looking for a recipe for dinner tomorrow. I wanted to try something new that was simple and everyone could enjoy. My little one is always a bit reluctant to eat new things, so that is a challenge now too. |
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Post by dawn on Jun 11, 2009 2:32:29 GMT -5
Star - you rest - I'll send out the positive thoughts when you're sleeping - that's the benefit of speaking to people in other time zones I hope that soon you will hear good news about your dad. |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 11, 2009 13:13:58 GMT -5
Thank you Dawn... no news yet. I am still waiting for my mom to give us a call today. She left early this morning for the hospital, and will most likely be there until this evening with him. I will keep everyone posted. {{{Hugs}}}
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Post by bostongirl on Jun 11, 2009 18:59:59 GMT -5
Steph - Hope things get better for your you, your Dad, and your family. Cancer is do evil. My heart and prayers are with you. Liz |
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Post by jupiterjane on Jun 11, 2009 22:43:29 GMT -5
Star...our thoughts are with you. Just enjoy every minute you have with him. I'm glad you and your mom can find support in one another. I wanted to share some positive info with you guys as well.....my hubby and I are expecting Baby #3, due in January! So if I am not around as much...you'll know why. I've been pretty exhausted. My 30th birthday plans are changing....but I'm still planning on LH CD release weekend...it will probably be the end of my road trip rocking weekends for a while. You guys are always in my thoughts and prayers.....sweet dreams everyone :-)
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Post by dawn on Jun 12, 2009 2:26:16 GMT -5
Congratulations JupiterJane  Star - Still thinking of you chick |
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Post by keysunset on Jun 12, 2009 10:31:11 GMT -5
CONGRATULATIONS, jupiterjane!! Of course, we'll understand not seeing you around, but check in every so often. We'll want to know how things are going! Inquiring minds and all ...
star -- keeping you and yours in thoughts and prayers, dear.
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Post by BBE on Jun 12, 2009 11:23:25 GMT -5
Congratulations, JupiterJane!!! You will have a lot to celebrate at your birthday party!  Star--hope everything is going well! |
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Post by bostongirl on Jun 12, 2009 11:46:16 GMT -5
Congratulations JupiterJane!!!! Hope to see you in Chicago. Take care. Liz |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 12, 2009 12:34:38 GMT -5
A new baby!!! That is such wonderful news JupiterJane!!! Congrats to you and your family... what a blessing I am so happy for you! |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 12, 2009 12:35:20 GMT -5
Dad report...
My Dad is doing well. He has the feeding tube in his side, and tube down his nose still for draining fluids, but he promised not to pull it out this time. He drove my Mom nuts yesterday ignoring her and enjoying his relatives gushing over him during visits. So, basically, he insulted my Mom in front of them saying that he only was talking to them, because they were far better company that she was... oh yeah... really bad. My Dad is the worst patient ever with his lack of having a bedside manner.
Today the doctor is going to give them the results of the post tests... praying that all the cells from the cancer were removed.
I will keep you updated. Yesterday was busy for me when my Mom came home, so I didn't have a chance to post. Making sure she eats and relaxes is not the easiest task in the world.
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 13, 2009 12:18:27 GMT -5
So far the morning hasn't started off great...
Apparently my Dad was showing off to his guests and such about his morphine drip (he's was acting like a kid and thought it was funny that he had control of the drip). Well,, he overdosed himself on the morphine and is seeing things and is not himself to say the least. He PULLED THE TUBE OUT again!!!
Yup... what he did last time, he did the same thing but in what he says was a really bad dream. Either way (drug induced or not) the damage is done. We already know what happened last time due to the tube coming out... now we have to see if he did any damage and if he didn't ruin the surgery. They are taking him for a test today to check if the removed all the showing cancer cells, so my Mom will be there until then. She says that he is making no sense at all in the state the morphine left him, so she doesn't want anyone to come over to the hospital to visit him today.
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Post by BBE on Jun 13, 2009 16:32:07 GMT -5
Uh-oh! I hope no damage was done.  The nurses are going to have to give him a good talking-to! |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 13, 2009 16:47:11 GMT -5
They did... but since this time all the med's had something to do with it the doctor wasn't mad. They checked and no damage was done... thankfully. So, far the tests are coming out clear. They had another test today that they are waiting results from on the x ray. The doctor told my Mom that even if all the tests show he is clear from all visible cancer cells, that with his type of cancer they will never be able to say he is 100% clear or not. The cells apparently can hide in the body without being detected, and so it will mean that he will have to constantly be checked every 6 months to make sure that the cells did not attack any new location in the body. So, I guess we will just have to live for the moment and enjoy life knowing that tomorrow never guarantee's anything. I guess we all knew that anyway, huh?
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 13, 2009 20:53:36 GMT -5
The x ray came out clean... so that is good news. The specialist has several other doctor's now working along with him on my Dad's case. They all say the same thing about the findings from before. So, at this point they are discussing the possibility of using the chemo pills on more of a long term basis as form of control and also more frequent check ups.
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