keysunset
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Post by keysunset on May 23, 2009 14:58:09 GMT -5
Second test came back... my Dad's cancer has returned  He has his appt. next week with the specialist/surgeon. Then we will know the plan. I have faith and I know that my family will get through this... as a family. "Faith looks forward... never back." You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers, star.  |
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keysunset
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Post by keysunset on May 23, 2009 15:02:01 GMT -5
please pray for my friend jenna and her family and mother... They put her mother into hospice care this morning. Prayers for you and for your friend and family, tine. Be there for them, and don't worry about having words. We have two ears and only one mouth, so we can listen twice as much as we talk.  And sometimes just being there and being willing to listen is more support than you can imagine. |
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keysunset
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Post by keysunset on May 23, 2009 15:03:28 GMT -5
My friend Lynn's mother is in the last stages of Alzheimer's. Her mother is sleeping most of the time now as the disease slowly shuts down her body. Please send them some prayers and positive thoughts.
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BBE
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Post by BBE on May 24, 2009 11:34:05 GMT -5
Star, I'm so sorry to hear that your dad's cancer has come back. I'm wishing you, your dad, and your whole family strength, and sending hugs, healing thoughts, and prayers. Christine, all my sympathies to your friend and her family. It's good that they have a kind-hearted person like you in their lives. Hospice care staff are really wonderful. They'll make sure she's comfortable and not in pain. Hugs to all of you, and prayers sent up. Key, I'm sending prayers and sympathies for your friend's mom. My mom died of a condition similar to Alzheimer's. (The end was technically due to pneumonia from complications from the flu, but that was because of the disease having shut down her immune system and having compromised all of her organ systems.) If it might help your friend's family, here is my experience of being with my mom during her final hours. The person can often still hear, even when it seems like they don't, so let the family know to just be with her and talk to her, tell her how much they love her, stroke her arm, and tell her it's OK to go. Sometimes the patient just needs to know that it's OK for them to let go. Being with my mom, and doing those things for her, plus reading her favorite Psalm (Psalm 23) and praying with her, helped her through her time of dying. I'd been telling her during those last hours that if she saw a bright light, it was OK to go to the light. She was in and out of consciousness, but more in than out for most of that time. She could definitely hear me. Just before she passed, she suddenly opened her eyes, sat up partway, and looked forward with a look of amazement. Then she turned toward me, like, "Do you see that?!" I realized at once what was happening, and told her, "Go to the light, Mom, go to the light! It's OK to go. I love you so much!" She looked forward again with a look of happiness and peace, then lay back in the bed, gave a final sighing breath, and died with that look of happiness and peace on her face. I felt her spirit in the room, just above me, and I looked up and said, " 'Bye, Mom. I love you!" Then I thought, "She's free now." I sat with her for several more minutes, just looking at her face, memorizing every detail of it for all time. Then I went out to the nurses station to tell them she was gone. I was OK until I tried to speak, and then I just broke down sobbing. At that point, they understood and I didn't need to say anything further.  I still feel so honored and grateful that I could be there for my mom like that, to support her through her final journey out of this world. That was my gift of love to her.  |
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Post by jillywilly65 on May 28, 2009 21:25:31 GMT -5
Thank You Nancy for sharing that personal and precious time with your Mom. What a blessed experience.  |
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Post by starcrossed on May 31, 2009 1:52:49 GMT -5
Blessings and prayers to all that have posted and to all of those who have not, yet need a helping hand to aid in their lives. May all your prayers be answered... and may all your doubts and fears be put to rest. {{{Hugs to all}}}
Thank each and every single one of you for the prayers and heartfelt wishes for my Father and my family.
My Dad is scheduled to have his entire stomach removed on June 10th. The cancer has been located in a small portion of his stomach, but it is a very aggressive for of cancer. They say that it can grow very quickly and is able to spread to other organs in the body at will. The surgeon will go in and remove all the stomach, and then check that the other organs are free from any cancer cells. They will not place a artificial stomach, but will instead have my Father pass food through the intestine only. That means he will have to eat smaller meals and more of them in order for his body to be able to absorb any nutrients into his system.
Then it will be chemo only, since he had too much radiation the first time (only 5 months ago) during treatment.
Right now spirits for my Dad are alright... he is taking this news as anyone else would. He obviously doesn't want this to be happening, but he is now past the denial and anger and just wants to be through with the surgery and treatment.
Family wise... Mom is holding up, scared and very worried. My brother is just being my brother. My son love's his Grandpa and doesn't know anything more than what little we have told him.
Me?... alright I guess. Stress got the best of me about a week ago and I ended up in the ER... not my proudest moment. Anyway, sickness passed and I am no worse for the wear. Just that they want me to keep my stress level down, so I don't get sick anymore... more yoga and breathing anyone? lol It's hard to not 'stress'... outside I can pretend, and I do have a world of faith... but family is family... how can I not worry when it is family?
Yeah... I know... I know... I didn't like my Father having to sit in the ER waiting room with my Mom either... or having to leave my son with my Aunt while I have an IV stuck into my hand. Darn hospital vampires can never find my vein... I was bruised green and yellow all for a few small blood samples. Anyway, I don't plan on doing that again...
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BBE
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Post by BBE on May 31, 2009 12:09:08 GMT -5
(((((((HUGS)))))))), Star! Please take care of yourself. |
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Post by starcrossed on May 31, 2009 16:48:05 GMT -5
Thank you Nancy. I am planning on taking better care of myself... I try to normally, but lately those in greater need have had to become priority before those of my own.
I have grown up a lot in life... other's coming before me doesn't even phase me anymore. In life there is more than what we see going on around us and that means one persons needs (even my own) should never be thought of as more important than another's. Everyone has needs and desire's... it's just a matter of "when" they each will be met. So, sometimes waiting takes longer than other times for individuals... but, I know if a person waits long enough that they can each come to pass. It's just a matter of being able to wait and not lose faith or face in the process.
Me? Well... I will take better care of myself. I have to. My getting sick put more burden on other's that have too much on their plates as it is in my family. So, sucking it up like a good little girl... and more yoga time for me each night. No worries... I am no worse for the wear... "Faith looks forward, and never back"... {{{Hugs}}}
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Post by cfbj01 on May 31, 2009 17:51:18 GMT -5
STAR  . Take care of yourself. Sending lots of positive thoughts your Dad's way. |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 1, 2009 14:47:14 GMT -5
Thank you CF {{{Hugs}}}... we can use each and every single one of those positive thoughts.
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dawn
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Post by dawn on Jun 2, 2009 8:04:41 GMT -5
Nancy - I'm sat here with tears in my eyes reading about your mum. So beautiful yet so sad all at the same time. Hey Star - huge hugs to you & your family, I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. Take care of yourself & let yourself be taken care of. Positive thoughts coming across the pond to you & yours. |
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keysunset
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Post by keysunset on Jun 3, 2009 5:30:01 GMT -5
Nancy, thanks for sharing your story. My friend Lynn's mom died Monday morning. I've not had an opportunity to talk to her yet ... trying to give the family some space right now. The memorial service isn't until June 20. So some hard days coming up for them. And then the "year of firsts".
Star - praying for you and your family too, darlin'. Lots of love being sent your way.
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 9, 2009 14:00:16 GMT -5
Thank you Dawn and Key.... {{{Hugs}}} Tomorrow is the big day. Nervous doesn't even cover what I am feeling inside... here is to faith and trusting in God to see us all through.
That not only goes toward my family, but also to all of you out there that really need a helping hand and a sincere prayer. Your never alone in life... and you are always loved and cared for no matter how things can feel at times. Have faith and trust in something more than yourself, because honestly, someone believes in you more than you could even begin to dream.
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Post by jillywilly65 on Jun 10, 2009 9:55:02 GMT -5
Steph , praying for your Pop ....keep us posted okay? love and hugs |
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dawn
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Post by dawn on Jun 10, 2009 10:02:56 GMT -5
Hey Star - I'm just letting you know we're thinking of you |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 10, 2009 12:13:21 GMT -5
Thank you Jill and Dawn so much.... He didn't want to go this morning, but he did. He was up at 6 am, so woke up early to spend some time with him before he left to be at the hospital at 8am. It's 10am right now our time in So Cali... so, they should be starting his surgery anytime now. My Mom went to the hospital with my Aunt, and told me she would call me here at the house with any news regarding my Father. I had no one to watch my son and he still had online class today, so I couldn't go with them.
I will keep everyone posted.
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Post by HY on Jun 10, 2009 13:07:24 GMT -5
Steph, I'll be thinking of you and your dad today. Positive vibes are headed your way. Hope everything goes well with his surgery and recovery. |
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 10, 2009 14:16:19 GMT -5
Thank you Lyn {{{Hugs}}}. My Aunt just called me a minute ago from the hospital. They just took him into surgery right now (12:12pm). They had a delay in the procedure before my Father, so his time on the schedule had to be delayed a few hours. He just was wheeled into surgery, and they doctor says that his procedure can run from 2 - 2 1/2 hours or longer depending on what they find when they get inside. I will keep everyone posted on what I hear...
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Post by starcrossed on Jun 10, 2009 16:53:41 GMT -5
Mom called... my Dad is out of surgery and in recovery right now. They left him part of his stomach instead of taking it all out. The doctor told her something troubling... that it was one of the worst type's of cancer he has seen and that there is still a chance of it coming back He says he will talk to them about what type of therapy he can give him for treatment. She is waiting for my Dad to come out of recovery and for the doctor to talk to both of them. |
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Post by BBE on Jun 10, 2009 17:28:37 GMT -5
Mom called... my Dad is out of surgery and in recovery right now. They left him part of his stomach instead of taking it all out. The doctor told her something troubling... that it was one of the worst type's of cancer he has seen and that there is still a chance of it coming back He says he will talk to them about what type of therapy he can give him for treatment. She is waiting for my Dad to come out of recovery and for the doctor to talk to both of them. Steph, I've been saying some prayers for your dad. I'm glad to hear he came through the surgery OK. I hope the doctors will come up with a good treatment plan so that it doesn't come back again. This has got to be a very long and tiring day for all of you. Many hugs and good thoughts to you and your family. |
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